In-law problems

In-law problems

You are of your father the devil, and you want to do the desires of your father. – (John 8:44)

Acts 5:1-3

 1 But a man named Ananias, with his wife Sapphira, sold a piece of property,

 2 and kept back some of the price for himself, with his wife’s full knowledge, and bringing a portion of it, he laid it at the apostles’ feet.

 3 But Peter said, Ananias, why has Satan filled your heart to lie to the Holy Spirit and to keep back some of the price of the land?

One evening a young lady brought home her fiancé to meet her parents. After dinner, her mother told her father to go and learn more about the young man. So they went for walk, the father started quizzing him.

“So what do you do?” the father asked.

“I am a Torah scholar,” he replied.

The father obviously impressed with the answer continued, “Admirable, but what will you do to provide a nice house for my daughter to live in?”

“I will study, and God will provide for us,” he answered back

“Now how do you plan to buy my daughter a beautiful engagement ring?” The father asked.

“I will concentrate on my studies,” the young man replies, “God will provide for us.”

“Hmm…and how do you plan to take care of your children?”

“Don’t worry, sir, God will provide,” answered the young man.     

Every time the father asked a new question; the young man expressed his confidence in God’s provision.

At bedtime when the mother enquired about the conversation, the father responded, “Well he has no job and no plans, but he thinks I am a god, and that I will take care of all of his needs.” (

Since the time of the Fall, human beings have been subject to the subtle and overt influences of the enemy. Anyone can be manipulated. Some more than others, particularly in moments of weakness, such as, physical, or emotional distress.

It is sensible, if not sagacious, to choose wisely those to whom we are closest. This is particularly true when it comes to marriage, which is intended to be a lifelong mutual commitment of fidelity and support. Seek the Father and ask for wisdom and guidance.

Many of us marry for love without consideration of the overall family we marry into. We should ask ourselves; what kind of people are either potential in-laws. what are their values and priorities? Will this lead to potential difficulties down the road?

The Lord Jesus Christ makes a somewhat subtle, and yet upon reflection, obvious observation. There are only two family lines on planet Earth: those who have the eternal King of glory as their father, and those who have the devil as their father.

If you marry a person who is not a child of the King, you are setting yourself up for problems with your in-laws, particularly your father-in-law.

John 8:44 You are of your father the devil, and you want to do the desires of your father. He was a murderer from the beginning, and does not stand in the truth because there is no truth in him. Whenever he speaks a lie, he speaks from his own nature, for he is a liar and the father of lies.

There seems to be a strong family resemblance between the values and actions of one’s father and oneself. Consciously or unconsciously we tend to act out the desires of our father. This realization should be taken into consideration when entering into marriage. The words of the Lord Jesus Christ should be taken as more than advice, they should become a stern warning!


Anyone can have a bad day. But only the Chicago White Sox had a bad century.

Father sometimes I feel so inadequate to make wise decisions. My life is marked by so many errors in judgment and mistakes. Help me to depend upon you more and more for direction and guidance.


But the wiles and coaxing of the enemy is not limited to those who are not the Father’s children. Every children of the King can be tempted and succumb to his schemes.

Acts 5:3 Peter said, Ananias, why has Satan filled your heart to lie to the Holy Spirit and to keep back some of the price of the land?

The enemy strongly influenced the decisions Ananias and Sophia which led to their own destruction. He planned and motivated their actions, “filling” their hearts.

This can happen to any of us any of the time. Perhaps this is what Paul had in mind when he spoke of “the flaming darts” of the evil one (Ephesians 6:16).

The enemy is a force for evil and devastation in our lives. He is always seeking a foothold, an opportunity, a launching point to wreak havoc in our hearts and minds. One obvious gateway is negative emotions.

Ephesians 4:26-27

 26 And “don’t sin by letting anger control you.” Don’t let the sun go down while you are still angry,

 27 for anger gives a foothold to the devil.

The Greek word often translated foothold, place, or opportunity is topos. Topos is figuratively understood as an opportunity to function, occasion. Unchecked, not dealt with negative emotions open wide the gate to the enemy of our souls.

The English word translated devil comes from the Greek term diabolos which means accuser or slanderer. That is who is and that is what he does.

The Father has provided us with the shield of faith. To protect us and those we love. Use it quickly, often, and repeatedly. The longer we wait, the greater his foothold.

Ephesians 6:16 In all circumstances take up the shield of faith, with which you can extinguish all the flaming darts of the evil one.

1 John 3:8 the one who practices sin is of the devil; for the devil has sinned from the beginning. The Son of God appeared for this purpose, to destroy the works of the devil.


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