Life is too short for shallow friendships ∙∙
Do not be deceived: “Bad company corrupts good morals.” – 1 Corinthians 15:33
Proverbs 13:20 He who walks with wise men will be wise, But the companion of fools will suffer harm.
Proverbs 22:24-25
24 Do not associate with a man given to anger or go with a hot-tempered man,
25 Or you will learn his ways and find a snare for yourself.
Aristotle’s timeless philosophy on friendship offers keen insight and profound wisdom that resonates even today. It guides us through the complexities of human connection. According to Aristotle, friendships can be classified into three distinct categories, each with its own unique characteristics and implications.
The first category, friendships of utility, is formed primarily out of necessity or convenience. These relationships are transactional, where mutual benefits are exchanged, often seen in professional settings. Such friendships, while practical, are typically temporary and dissolve once their utilitarian purpose is fulfilled, leaving little lasting impact beyond the immediate benefits shared. They are ad hoc friendships.
The next type of relationship is based on the enjoyment, pleasure, or fun people have when they are together. It is rooted in shared or common interests or emotions. These are the most short-lived of all relationships. They are tied to one another through specific activities or moments, such as being teammates, sharing hobbies, or celebrating common goals. Although delightful, they tend to dissipate as quickly as they begin, contingent upon the ever-changing nature of personal interests and circumstances.
The third type most profound and enduring friendship, is the friendship of the good. These bonds are built on mutual respect and admiration for each other’s qualities and character. Such friendships transcend the superficial, as they are not based on temporary benefits or pleasures but on a deep appreciation of the inherent goodness of their close friend. It is easy for them to trust one another. In fact, they cultivate trust and a sense of belonging that withstands the test of time and adversity.
In these relationships, individuals support one another through life’s challenges, growing stronger and more resilient together. What motivates these friendships? Simply put, it is the qualities and personalities of the people involved. A natural bond forms as their traits and basic personalities complement and blend. When you respect and care for someone, you find joy in spending time with them.
Aristotle believed that virtuous (good) friendships require intentionality, nurturing, and time to flourish. They offer some of life’s sweetest joys, providing balance, perspective, and a significant enhancement of one’s mental and emotional well-being. These connections, carefully cultivated, often last a lifetime and are integral to our personal growth.
Ultimately, Aristotle’s insights remind us that the quality of our lives is profoundly shaped by the company we keep. By fostering relationships anchored in genuine admiration and shared virtues, we enrich our lives and those of others by forging enduring connections that elevate and inspire our walk with the Father.
Aristotle opted to cultivate virtuous friendships built with intention and based on a mutual appreciation of character and goodness. He knew these friendships could only be strengthened over time, and if they thrived, they would often last for life.
Life is too short for shallow friendships (Excerpted and expanded from Zat Rana).
REFLECT & PRAY
The words of good friends may occasionally sting, yet they never cause permanent damage. They may hurt us, but they will not harm us. These gentle nudges often guide us back to the right path, acting as a balm rather than a wound.
Father, grant me wisdom in nurturing relationships with those around me. Thank you for the wonderful friends You have blessed me with, those who love You with all their hearts and reflect Your presence in their lives.
INSIGHT
We are to choose friends wisely. Why? The company we keep profoundly shapes who we are. Friends wield a significant influence over our hearts and minds, capable of steering us toward light or darkness. The apostle Paul cautions us not to be misled: “Bad company corrupts good character” (1 Corinthians 15:33). We must choose our companions wisely, seeking those who uplift and inspire us to walk in faith.
In 1 Corinthians 15, Paul underscores the pivotal role of the resurrection in our faith journey. He argues that without the resurrection of our Lord Jesus Christ, the very foundation of our beliefs would collapse. If Christ has not been raised, your faith is worthless; you are still in your sins (1 Corinthians 15:17). What a tragedy!
But indeed, He is risen!
This resurrection is not merely a historical event but the cornerstone of our daily lives. It empowers us to live with hope and assurance, guiding our actions and relationships. May we seek friends who remind us of this truth, encouraging our faith and enriching our journey with their love and wisdom.
Let us embrace friendships that challenge us to grow closer to the Father, cherishing those who help us keep our eyes fixed on the eternal promise of the risen Christ. In these relationships, we find not only companionship but also a deeper understanding of His unfailing love.
In a world where many deny the resurrection, it’s vital to be mindful of the company we keep. Sadly, such people may have a bad influence on us. Friends with such beliefs can have a long-term adverse effect on us. It’s easy to become blind to their influence, deceiving ourselves into accepting ideas that distance us from our faith. The NLT warns us, “Don’t be fooled by those who say such things, for ‘bad company corrupts good character’” (1 Corinthians 15:33).
Proverbs 18:24 reminds us, “A man of too many friends comes to ruin, but there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother.” True friends, those provided by our heavenly Father, can be more steadfast and loyal than our own family. They are a genuine treasure, enriching our lives with their faithfulness.
Psalms 1:1 tells us, “Oh, the joys of those who do not follow the advice of the wicked, or stand around with sinners, or join in with mockers.”
This leads us to reflect on the nature of our friendships. What kind of people do you hang out with and consider your friends? True friendship is a reciprocal relationship founded on trust, kindness, and mutual support. The Father, in His wisdom, understands our need for such connections and often blesses us with friendships that nurture our faith.
As seen in 1 Samuel 18:1, the bond between Jonathan and David was profound and life-giving. Their souls were knit together together. Jonathan loved David as he loved himself. Eerily, this mirrors the love of the New Testament.
John 13:34 A new commandment I give to you, that you love each other. Just as I have loved you, you should love each other.
John 13:35 Your love for one another will prove to the world that you are my disciples.
1 Peter 4:8 Most important of all, continue to show deep love for each other, for love covers a multitude of sins.
Discovering genuine friendship, especially later in life, is a remarkable gift from the Father. These blessings often unfold after we accept the Lord Jesus Christ as our Savior, ushering in a new chapter of life filled with unexpected joys and meaningful relationships.
But there’s more!
The Father has done something extraordinary and wonderful for each of the children of the King. The Lord Jesus Christ declared, “I no longer call you slaves, because a master does not confide in his slaves. Now you are my friends” (John 15:15). We are now the friends of the Lord Jesus Christ because He made it so.
In Christ, we have found the ultimate friend, our eternal companion and confidant. He is our new BFF, offering an unwavering friendship that transcends all others. Let us cherish this divine friendship, allowing it to inspire and guide us in all our relationships.
All children of the King have a wonderful new friend, BFF the King Himself.
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© Dr. H 2024
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