Be kind ∙∙

Be kind ∙∙

The LORD has told you what is good, and this is what he requires of you: to do what is right, to love kindness, and to walk humbly with your God. – Micah 6:8

Ephesians 4:31-32

 31 Let all bitterness, wrath, anger, clamor, and slander be put away from you, along with all malice.

 32 Be kind to one another, tender-hearted, forgiving each other, just as God in Christ also has forgiven you.

“Three things in human life are important. The first is to be kind. The second is to be kind. And the third is to be kind” (Henry James).

Since the Tower of Babel (Genesis 11), communication has been a problem between people. It is perhaps worse today in our day of polarized and antithetical political views. Is there a universal language we could all speak that would allow us to communicate and understand one another?

The simple answer – is yes! Kindness!

Kindness is the language that the deaf can hear and the blind can see (Mark Twain).

Kindness is a state of being that includes loving affection, sympathy, friendliness, patience, pleasantness, gentleness, and goodness.

Some folks seem gifted with a tender heart and a kind spirit. You can spot them anywhere. People who need loving care, sympathy, mercy, gentleness, and understanding are attracted to them. Simply follow the crowd.

But for the rest of us, it is not so simple. We get hurt and offended, we bear grudges, we close ourselves off from human relationships, and we dry up inside and become hard.

Anger is an acid that can harm the vessel in which it is stored more than anything on which it is poured (Mark Twain). “Be kind, for everyone you meet is fighting a harder battle” (Plato).

Of all the possible things we could do to please the Father, what matters most? The Father has made Himself clear on this matter. Kindness is at the core of what we ought to be and do. It is not a suggestion; it is a requirement. Simply stated, if we are not choosing to be kind, we violate one of His prime directives.

Micah 6:6-8

 6 What can we bring to the LORD? What kind of offerings should we give him? Should we bow before God with offerings of yearling calves?

 7 Should we offer him thousands of rams and ten thousand rivers of olive oil? Should we sacrifice our firstborn children to pay for our sins?

 8 No, O people, the LORD has told you what is good, and this is what he requires of you: to do what is right, to love mercy, and to walk humbly with your God.

Micah 6:8 unequivocally answers the question. It rules out the possibilities of the previous two verses. Micah, the prophet himself, speaks for the Father. The Father tells us what He requires: to do what is just, show kindness, and live in humble fellowship with our God.

Without a right relationship with the Father, this is impossible, and all outward pretense and ceremony are useless and vain (UBS).

To act with justice and equity involves maintaining right and fair relationships.

The Hebrew term for kindness is “hesed.” It is often translated as kindness, lovingkindness, reliability, faithfulness, mercy, and loyal love. The third phrase is literally “to walk humbly with your God,” which means not insisting on our own way but readily doing what the Father desires of us.

Hesed is one of the most beautiful and fascinating words used in the Old Testament to describe the Father. It is profound and multifaceted. The Father has many attractive characteristics, personality traits, and attributes, but perhaps one of the most delightful of all is His lovingkindness.

The Father requires us to be just like Him when dealing with others.

REFLECT & PRAY

I’ve made so many poor choices. Is there one decision I wish I could change? Absolutely. I would have chosen to be kind and tenderhearted.

Father, it deeply grieves me that I have been hardhearted and resistant to simple acts of kindness and forgiveness. Help me to be tender, gentle, and accepting of others as You are with me. Let me start anew and walk in a new way.

INSIGHT

The Father’s tenderhearted, lovingkindness is seen in the story of the prodigal (Luke 15:11-32). The Father does not reject; He longs for reconciliation and restoration.

Luke 15:20-24

 20 But while he was still far off, his father saw him, felt compassion, and ran, embraced, and kissed him.

 21 And the son said to him, “Father, I have sinned against heaven and before you. I am no longer worthy of being called your son.”

 24 [And his father said,] this my son was dead, and is alive again; he was lost and is found

The Father’s incredible compassion shines through in His gentle and tender approach towards those who have made serious mistakes and are feeling deeply ashamed and embarrassed. Instead of passing judgment, He extends forgiveness (John 8).

John 8:10-11

 10 Then Jesus stood up again and said to the woman, “Where are your accusers? Didn’t even one of them condemn you?”

 11 “No, Lord,” she said. And Jesus said, “Neither do I. Go and sin no more.”

Jeremiah 31:3 The LORD appeared to him from afar, saying, “I have loved you with an everlasting love; therefore, I have drawn you with lovingkindness.”

We have been drawn to the Father through His lovingkindness. How can we possibly emulate His beautiful and magnificent tender kindness in dealing with others?

Peter shows us the way.

1 Peter 3:8-12

 8 Finally, all of you should be of one mind. Sympathize with each other. Love each other as brothers and sisters. Be tenderhearted and keep a humble attitude.

 9 Don’t repay evil for evil. Don’t retaliate with insults when people insult you. Instead, pay them back with a blessing. That is what God has called you to do, and he will bless you for it.

 10 For the Scriptures say, “If you want to enjoy life and see many happy days, keep your tongue from speaking evil and your lips from telling lies.

 11 Turn away from evil and do good. Search for peace, and work to maintain it.

 12 The eyes of the Lord watch over those who do right, and his ears are open to their prayers. But the Lord turns his face against those who do evil.”

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Be careful what you ask for ∙∙

Be careful what you ask for ∙∙

So he gave them what they asked for, but sent leanness into their soul. – Psalms 106:15

Psalms 78:23-25

 23 But he commanded the skies to open; he opened the doors of heaven.

 24 He rained down manna for them to eat; he gave them bread from heaven.

 25 They ate the food of angels! God gave them all they could hold.

It seems that no matter how much we have, it is never enough. We might think this results from the overabundance of “things” in the highly materialistic, productive 20th and 21st centuries. However, “wanting more” seems to be part of our human DNA.

Beginning in the Garden of Eden, an impeccable, pollution-free, idyllic, temperature-controlled, perfectly designed environment, the cornucopia of things provided by the Father was just not enough. Even though every need was satisfied, Adam and Eve still wanted more. The adversary recognized this vulnerability and devised a cunning temptation that led to their downfall. Tragically, they succumbed.

Indeed, it is understandable that some may believe the temptation and the tempter were overwhelming, making resistance impossible. But that is not the case. Regardless of how strong the temptation may be, there is always another way. The onus is on each of us to seek that way out, muster the strength to resist, and ultimately break free from its grasp.

1 Corinthians 10:13 The temptations in your life are no different from what others experience. And God is faithful. He will not allow the temptation to be more than you can stand. When you are tempted, he will show you a way out so that you can endure.

What other layered, unseen risks are at stake in giving into temptation? Foremost among them was jeopardizing one’s relationship with the Father, the living God.

Regrettably, when we disregard the consequences, we often trade something precious for instant or short-term pleasure or gratification.

Psalms 78 recounts the story of the children of Israel’s lack of gratitude and discontentment with the Father’s miraculous provision. With limited food and water and such vast numbers of people, the children of Israel faced extreme scarcity in the wilderness. In a remarkable and supernatural act, the Father made accessible a miraculous provision: manna from heaven. This was sent directly from the Father’s hand to sustain them.

Psalms 78:23-25

 23 He commanded the skies to open; he opened the doors of heaven.

 24 He rained down manna for them to eat; he gave them bread from heaven.

 25 They ate the food of angels! God gave them all they could hold.

What could possibly be wrong with manna? In a word, it’s sameness. It was predictable and boring! Manna, manna, manna, day after day manna! Roasted manna, boiled manna, sunbaked manna, fried manna, barbecued manna, no matter what you do with it, it’s always just manna.

Numbers 11:18 Oh, for some meat! We were better off in Egypt!

This single sentence is filled with layered ingratitude, defiance, and rebellion. The people remembered and longed for the “good old days.” The “good old days???” Did they forget that they had been slaves in Egypt for over 400 years? They craved and lusted after what they did not have. They were impatient and unwilling to wait for His provision in His time. Were they afraid that the Father would be unable to provide for them? Had they forgotten the magnificent miracles the Father performed on their behalf to free them?

Psalms 78:18-19

 18 They stubbornly tested God in their hearts, demanding the foods they craved.

 19 They even spoke against God himself, saying, “God can’t give us food in the wilderness.”

Take a moment to reflect on this. After all they had seen and experienced, they shamelessly provoked the Father, putting Him to the test. The challenge was bold and audacious. Can the Father do what they were asking Him to do? They questioned His abilities and intentions. It was almost as though they were making bets. Can He, or can’t He? Will He, or won’t He?

REFLECT & PRAY

“He who knows that enough is enough will always have enough” (Lao Tzu).

Father, help me be content and grateful for how You provide for my needs.

INSIGHT

Their “demand” was granted. They got the short-term gratification they were seeking. They got their wish, but there was collateral damage and grievous unanticipated consequences. With the gift came disaster: a wasting disease in their souls (Numbers 11:18-20).

Psalms 106:15 He gave them their request, but sent leanness into their soul.

The Hebrew word translated as leanness, plague, wasting, or disease is razon. Razon refers to a state of becoming meager, diminished, atrophied, or powerless. While their stomachs may have been full, their spirits were weak and depleted. A lean soul is a spiritual disaster.

Numbers 11:33 While the meat was still between their teeth before it was chewed, the anger of the LORD was kindled against the people, and the LORD struck the people with a very severe plague.

How do we avoid developing lean souls? How do we grow strong spirits (Luke 1:80)? The battle is in the mind and heart.

1 Corinthians 10:6-11

 6 These things happened as a warning to us so that we would not crave evil things as they did,

 10 And don’t grumble as some of them did, and then were destroyed by the angel of death.

 11 These things happened to them as examples for us. They were written down to warn us who live at the end of the age.

We need to be able to say, “Enough is enough.” Instead of grumbling about what we do not have, we need to be grateful for what He has provided. Feed on the true Bread from Heaven.

John 6:27-35

 27 But don’t be so concerned about perishable things like food. Spend your energy seeking the eternal life that the Son of Man can give you. For God the Father has given me the seal of his approval.”

 32 Jesus said, “I tell you the truth, Moses didn’t give you bread from heaven. My Father did. And now he offers you the true bread from heaven.”

 33 “The true bread of God is the one who comes down from heaven and gives life to the world.”

 34 “Sir,” they said, “give us that bread every day.”

 35 Jesus replied, “I am the bread of life. Whoever comes to me will never be hungry again. Whoever believes in me will never be thirsty.”

They forgot His works, the undeniable evidence of the Father’s wisdom, power, and goodness. In so doing, they forgot the Father. The Father “makes himself known by his works” (NET).

What have you asked for? Have you received it? Has your soul become lean? Are you spiritually sensitive enough to even recognize that your soul has atrophied?

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© Dr. H 2024

It just takes time ∙

It just takes time ∙

Teach us to realize the brevity of life, so that we may grow in wisdom. – Psalms 90:12

Psalms 1:1-6

 1 Oh, the joys of those who do not follow the advice of the wicked, or stand around with sinners, or join in with mockers.

 2 But they delight in the law of the LORD, meditating on it day and night.

 3 They are like trees planted along the riverbank, bearing fruit each season. Their leaves never wither, and they prosper in all they do.

 6 For the LORD watches over the path of the godly . . ..

Trees differ significantly in their rate of growth. It varies from species to species but also depends upon the climate and the water available, which often fluctuates from year to year. In tropical climates with warm weather and a plentiful water supply, a tree can become fully grown in 30 years. A tree in cooler regions may take several hundred years to reach full growth and maturity.

Every year, a tree increases in size by adding a layer of wood when the woody fiber is deposited between the bark and the trunk. These layers are referred to as growth rings, and the age of a tree is determined by counting these growth rings.

Trees exhibit significant variations in their growth rates, influenced by species differences, climate, and water availability, which can change annually. In tropical climates with warm weather and abundant water, a tree might reach full maturity in 30 years. Conversely, trees in cooler regions may require several hundred years to achieve full growth.

Each year, trees grow by adding a layer of wood as woody fiber is deposited between the bark and the trunk. These layers, known as growth rings, are counted to determine a tree’s age.

Giant sequoias rank among the oldest and largest trees globally, with many specimens verified to be over 2000 years old and some ancient redwoods exceeding 3500 years. Oak trees can live up to 1000 years. When forests are cleared, it can take up to a century for them to regenerate fully.


Many of the children of the King struggle to accept that the Father does not hasten the development of our spiritual lives (Stanford). Spiritual formation is a gradual journey that cannot be rushed. This process of spiritual growth spans a lifetime and mirrors the continuous progression observed in nature.

The more complex and refined an organism is, the longer its developmental process. The Father operates with an eternal perspective, and the duration of this process is entirely under His control. We should not concern ourselves with how much time it takes or how long the process takes.

“A student asked the President of his school whether he could not take a shorter course than the one prescribed. ‘Oh yes,’ replied the President, ‘but then it depends upon what you want to be. When God wants to make an oak, He takes a hundred years, but when He wants to make a squash, He takes six months’” (Dr. A. H. Strong).

Benjamin Disraeli was British prime minister in 1868 and 1874-80. “One day in the House of Commons, British Prime Minister Disraeli made a brilliant speech on the spur of the moment. That night, a friend said to him, ‘I must tell you how much I enjoyed your extemporaneous talk. It’s been on my mind all day.’ ‘Madam,’ confessed Disraeli, ‘that extemporaneous talk has been on my mind for twenty years.’”

REFLECT & PRAY

“The conversion of a soul is the miracle of a moment, but the manufacture of a saint is the task of a lifetime” (Alan Redpath).

Father indeed, life is brief. How I wish I could grow and develop a heart of wisdom so that I may use my time in a way that has value in eternity. Please make it so.

INSIGHT

Psalms 90:12 Teach us to realize the brevity of life, so that we may get a heart of wisdom.

In Psalm 90, Moses prays for “a heart of wisdom.” He seeks the best of the best insight and discernment. Moses has reached the point where he is aware of his tremendous need for such knowledge and wisdom. What characterizes a wise heart? Where does the process of developing one begin?

A wise heart begins with the recognition of the brevity of life. Our life on planet Earth is finite. Our days are numbered. As we check them off, we come to terms with the reduced number we have left. This realization becomes the motivation for making the most of what remains. How can this be done? The psalmist prays for a heart of wisdom. He wants to grow in the Father’s wisdom. The fruit of the Father’s wisdom is skillful living.

In Psalms 1, the one who walks uprightly with the Father is likened to a luxurious tree planted by flowing water. In the proper location with abundant water and nourishment, trees do what they were made to do: grow and bear fruit in season.

Psalms 1:3 They are like trees planted along the riverbank, bearing fruit each season. Their leaves never wither, and they prosper in all they do.

Trees grow quietly. They take in water, nutrients, and sunlight and produce something entirely different than what they take in.

Spiritual formation is seasonal. We can learn much by looking at a tree’s rings. Some years were marked by significant growth, others not so much. So it is with the children of the King. During the slow times, growth is solidified and strengthened, often through testing and even severe drought.

“Growth is not a uniform thing in the tree or in the Christian. In some single months there is more growth than in all the year besides. During the rest of the year, however, there is solidification, without which the green timber would be useless. The period of rapid growth . . . occupies but four to six weeks in May, June and July” (Strong).

The Father’s methods involve time and various techniques necessary for spiritual development. “The Husbandman’s method for true spiritual growth involves pain as well as joy, suffering as well as happiness, failure as well as success, inactivity as well as service, death as well as life . . .” (Sanford).

The loving Father delights in bestowing blessings upon His faithful, obedient children. He goes before them, preparing the path and leading them to a place of abundance and joy. Although He doesn’t promise the absence of challenges, He does assure them of ultimate victory (Stanley).

“It is God’s way to set people aside after their first start, that self-confidence may die down . . .. We must get to know ourselves and that we have no strength. Thus we must learn and then leaning on the Lord we can with more maturity, and more experientially, deal with souls” (John Darby).

The key is to understand that it just takes time. You can’t rush spiritual growth. There are no shortcuts to spiritual maturity. However, it’s a journey worth taking.

“Yesterday is gone. Tomorrow has not yet come. We have only today” (Mother Theresa).

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Thanks for being You! ∙

Thanks for being You! ∙

Come, let us sing to the LORD! Let us shout joyfully to the Rock of our salvation. – Psalms 95:1

Psalms 100:1-5

 1 Shout with joy to the LORD, all the earth!

 2 Worship the LORD with gladness. Come before him, singing with joy.

 3 Acknowledge that the LORD is God! He made us, and we are his. We are his people, the sheep of his pasture.

 4 Enter his gates with thanksgiving; go into his courts with praise. Give thanks to him and praise his name.

 5 For the LORD is good. His unfailing love continues forever, and his faithfulness continues to each generation.

Gratitude Matters

Contemporary psychological inquiry has demonstrated that cultivating gratitude significantly enhances our outlook on life and often leads to positive outcomes. Gratitude promotes both physical and mental health, even in those struggling with emotional wellness challenges.

Research shows that practicing gratitude can help reduce negativity. It shifts our focus away from complaining and negative speech. Expressing thanks can also help reduce harmful emotions like resentment and envy, which often accompany negativity. This can, in turn, help mitigate detrimental self-reflection and introspection, potentially lessening the risk of depression.

What is gratitude?

Gratitude is a sense of appreciation that often naturally arises within us as we acknowledge and value the people and things in our lives. It is both a feeling and an attitude of appreciation. While it can emerge spontaneously, it can also be nurtured. How does one foster gratitude? By consciously acknowledging the good that has come into our lives. We recall, recognize, and focus on what we have instead of what we lack. This fleshes out the idea of “counting our blessings.”

This could include acknowledging personal achievements, the people who love and support us, the opportunities we’ve been given, our health, or simple everyday pleasures. The practice of “smelling the roses” often leads to increased feelings of gratitude, happiness, and contentment.

What factors erode gratitude from our core? Persistent desire for more, envy, cynicism, and self-centeredness are key contributors (Psychology Today).

The psalmist encourages all of the children of the King to approach their Father with vibrant joy and gratitude. This call to worship is not soft, timid, or diffident. It’s an exuberant shout, a joyful noise. Imagine that your favorite team is playing in the Super Bowl, and you have been gifted tickets. You are there waiting for your favorite team to be introduced and take the field. As they finally appear, the stadium erupts in a deafening roar of excitement. That’s the essence of a joyful noise!

Psalms 100:1 Shout with joy to the LORD, all the earth!

The Hebrew word translated as joyful noise, shout joyfully, or shout with joy is rua. Rua means to make a loud noise, to cry out with a loud voice. Rua is commonly linked to the scene of a battlefield. The sound, often a booming echo produced by a human voice or possibly a trumpet or musical horn, typically serves as a signal. A rua was to shout a war cry, sound the signal for battle, or shout in triumph or victory. This exuberant sound is usually an expression of triumph, a response to a successfully won battle and attained victory.

The psalmist isn’t summoning us to engage in a battle. Instead, he is inviting us to rejoice over the victories and triumphs that the Father has bestowed upon us and promises for our future. This is an invitation to a lively, spirited celebration expressed through profound, heartfelt thankfulness and gratitude.

What does Psalms 100 commemorate? It primarily celebrates the Father’s sovereignty. He is the mastermind and architect of all creation. Every child of the King is the sheep of His pasture, illustrating His tender and nurturing care. His boundless generosity and kindness are emphasized, along with His never-ending love that endures forever. Other is recognized as the epitome of absolute dependability.

Psalms 100:3 Acknowledge that the LORD is God! He made us, and we are his. We are his people, the sheep of his pasture.

Our praises are not to be spoken. They are to be shouted in song like we really mean it.

Imagine a US Marine DI (drill instructor) seeking a lively, loud shout from his recruits. He screams, “Semper Fi, do or die.” They shout back, “Oh yeah.” He says I can’t hear you. They shout louder, “Oh yeah.” He responds I can’t hear you. They shout even louder, “Oh yeah.”

Sing your heart out, shout for joy.

The Father is looking for a few good men and women to celebrate His triumphal excellence!

Psalms 100:5 For the LORD is good. His unfailing love continues forever, and his faithfulness continues to each generation.

REFLECT & PRAY

“God is the Shepherd; we are His flock. God is the Creator; we are His creations. God is the Father; we are His children” (Stanley).

Father, thank you for being You! Thank You for all the wonderful things You are, the wonderful things You do, and the beautiful things You do for me!

INSIGHT

Psalms 100:4 Enter His gates with thanksgiving and His courts with praise. Give thanks to Him, bless His name.

The Father is calling upon all children of the King to engage in worship and praise. They are uniquely privileged to experience a profound spiritual joy that flows from their relationship with the Father. Such spiritual joy only comes through knowing the Father. Spiritual joy is expressed through exuberant songs, shouts of praise, and expressions of thanksgiving.

David showed the way and served as an example of vibrant, spirited joy and thanksgiving, born out of his intimate knowledge and relationship with the Father. He had successfully recovered the Ark of the Covenant from the Philistines and was in the process of returning it to Jerusalem.

In celebration of this achievement and as a sign of his deep appreciation and reverence for the Father, David fully immersed himself in the festivities. His wife, Michal, however, perceived his uninhibited joy as foolishness. She thought he was out of his mind. Yet, David was undeterred by her criticism and danced into the night, leaping and rejoicing.

Michal confronted him, accusing him of indecency and conduct unbefitting of a king. She thought he was being lewd and disgraceful. David responded by saying, in essence, “You ain’t seen nothing yet,” I will go to any length to celebrate before the Father. He was willing to look even more foolish than what Michal had seen that day. He was ready to be humiliated in his own eyes (2 Samuel 6:22).

His dance was dedicated solely to the Father. David was not concerned about what other people might think about his exuberance and joyful expression.

“When the Lord’s presence makes us joyful, serving Him becomes an untroubled joy. Only when one takes no pleasure in God does serving Him seem like a chore and a burden” (Stanley).

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Age of rage

Age of rage ∙∙

Do not let yourself be quickly provoked, for anger resides in the heart of fools. – Ecclesiastes 7:9

Proverbs 16:32 He who is slow to anger is better than the mighty, and he who rules his spirit, than he who captures a city.

Proverbs 16:32 Better to be patient than powerful; better to have self-control than to conquer a city.

Sales of antacids are on a steady rise. These remedies, which fall into two main categories – those that neutralize gastric acid like sodium bicarbonate and those that absorb acids such as calcium and magnesium salts- are commonly used to alleviate gastric discomfort. However, it’s crucial to understand that antacids only mask the symptoms; they do not address the root cause of gastric distress.

We live in what many call the “Age of Rage.” People everywhere are seething, simmering, and fuming internally, leading to an era marked by churning anger.

Tempers seem to be perpetually on edge, contributing to a surge in violent incidents. News feeds are filled with stories of violence triggered by sudden outbursts of anger. Individuals appear to be not just losing their tempers but also their sanity, committing senseless, brutal acts against colleagues, strangers, or even family members.

Does anyone want to appear foolish? Of course not. Yet, fools are recognized through their actions.

Control your temper, for anger labels you a fool. – Ecclesiastes 7:9

REFLECT & PRAY

It is better to keep your mouth closed and let people think you are a fool than to open it and remove all doubt (Mark Twain).

Father, teach me to cultivate and promote gentleness instead of anger.

INSIGHT

Anger often originates from our own actions. When we behave in ways that make us feel foolish or incompetent, it can result in self-directed anger, also known as internal anger. Conversely, anger can also be provoked by the actions of others, which is referred to as external anger.

Managing self-anger involves practicing self-acceptance and self-forgiveness. Embracing self-love, instead of harboring self-hatred, is a crucial step in this healing process.

External anger is frequently tied to difficult childhood experiences and inadequate parenting. When anger is sowed in a child’s heart, it grows into a bitter harvest of rage and wrath.

You reap what you sow,

More than you sow, and

Later than you sow (Stanley).

Hosea 8:7 They sow the wind, and so they will harvest the whirlwind!

Unresolved anger establishes a recurring pattern, a cycle of fury and rage that perpetuates itself across multiple generations.

Numbers 14:18 The LORD is slow to anger and filled with unfailing love, forgiving every kind of sin and rebellion. But he does not excuse the guilty. He lays the sins of the parents upon their children; the entire family is affected – even children in the third and fourth generations.

Can this cycle be disrupted? Absolutely! By recognizing the issue(recognition), expressing remorse (repentance), and admitting one’s mistakes (confession), anyone caught in the cycle can break the generational curse.

For parents, the change begins with you. Acknowledging and responding to your children’s feelings and reactions is an essential part of parental responsibility.

Ephesians 6:4 Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger by the way you treat them. Rather, bring them up with the discipline and instruction that comes from the Lord.

“Literally this means, do not provoke your children to anger so that they begin to seethe with resentment and irritation like sap swelling in a tree on a hot day” (Hughes).

The Greek word for “provoke” is parorgizo, which comes from para – by, beyond, near, toward, implying movement toward a certain point, and orgizo – to anger, irritate. Hence, parorgizo means to exasperate, provoke to anger, irritation, or resentment.

This command forbids placing unreasonable expectations on children in the everyday course of family life (Nelson). Such provocation can unnecessarily ignite a child’s anger. Research suggests that the leading cause of rage in teenagers is the lack of adequate guidance from their parents (Constable).

Feelings of resentment and irritation flourish in environments marked by irrationality, selfishness, faultfinding, nagging, neglect, severe and unfair punishment, threats, and inconsistency. These feelings are further exacerbated when parents fail to acknowledge their children’s efforts and accomplishments, instead berating them for never being good enough. Children, like tender shoots, can easily be crushed.

Is it possible to correct these mistakes? Can these wrongs be made right? Can steps be taken when irritated, frustrated children grow into wrathful, resentful, and angry adults?

When the Father intervenes, all things become possible, though not guaranteed. By inviting the Father to be at the center of our lives, wonderful transformations can occur. Acts of kindness, understanding, gentleness, and godly instruction often work wonders over time. A positive, supportive, and safe environment defined by love can make up for countless shortcomings (1 Peter 4:8).

Our heavenly Father deeply desires and actively works toward the restoration of shattered lives and relationships. Consider the parable of the prodigal son: the father eagerly anticipates his son’s return and, upon his arrival, forgives him completely. The father welcomes him with open arms and rejoices in his safe homecoming.

Luke 15:32 We had to celebrate this happy day. For your brother was dead and has come back to life! He was lost, but now he is found!

When God communicates, do we perceive Him as a forgiving or exacting Father, a close or distant Friend, a patient or impatient Teacher, a gentle or era Guide, a compassionate or unfeeling Counselor, a generous or hesitant Provider, or a faithful or inconsistent Sustainer? (Stanley)

What do other people hear when we speak?

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